We Love Because He First Loved Us

“We love because He first loved us…”
1 John 4:19.

This verse has been haunting me over the last few months especially with my Bell’s Palsy. From the very beginning of the onset of Bell’s, I heard very loudly from the doctors that I was likely overstressed and needed to rest while I worked through this illness… I had one doctor who told me that this was my body telling me it couldn’t keep doing the things it was; that something needed to change.

Following doctors orders I went to an acupuncturist when my family was visiting Mammoth. As I lay there on the table – this woman putting needles in my face, feet, hands and head; she asked me a very powerful question: “Ryan if stress is part of the issue – which I believe it is – what is causing you stress?”
I began to talk it through with her. It felt ironic to me; this woman was clearly a Buddhist; didn’t subscribe to my faith in Jesus but she had a deep peace about her and somehow God was going to use her to minister to me. At one point in the conversation she said: “Ryan, I just think that all this pressure you put on yourself; that maybe you carry for other people – is really never going to be lightened until you learn to let other people go and realize the person whom you are really trying to receive love from is yourself. In the end, the only person who can give you love – is you.”
Upon first glance that sounded fine and all. It had some inspiration to it, something in me related to it – but then I realized that even that was empty. It’s taken years for me to grow to a place where I even like myself. Why would I be looking for love from somebody who I don’t even like or respect? I’m not eternal, I’m not powerful – I’m just a small life living in a small town in a small area of the world. And then the reality is – if loving myself was the key – I would think I’d have figured it out by now. It seems so far away… Something was missing in this. If the key is me just looking in a mirror and saying I love myself and then believing it – that seems easy enough, until I don’t do it well – then can I love myself and accept myself when I cannot love and accept that I love and accept myself?????? It’ so confusing.
Unless, I was never the person I truly needed to receive affirmation and acceptance from. I found myself on that table – a human pin cushion – saying to this young acupuncturist lady – “In my worldview – I think it’s wonderful to love ourselves – but the truth is that ability to love ourselves flows from the reality that we are deeply, truly and perfectly loved by the God who made us. That even in those moments when we are truly human – we fail – we betray – we curse – we stray – that God’s love remains.” Then these words came out of my mouth and they struck home with me: “I guess so much of the weight I carry to please others – the weight I carry to be the best doggone preacher the world has ever seen – the pressure I put on myself to be a perfect father – the pressure I place on myself to say just the right thing to people who are struggling – the pressure I feel to be Jesus even when I can’t – that pressure comes when somehow I lose touch and awareness of the fact that I am loved already; loved perfectly; loved truly and deeply…”
Man that was a huge thought. We both sat there and she said: “That is beautiful – will God love you even when you lose awareness of the fact that He loves you?” I said “Yes”. Then she said – “So I guess to the level you can embrace that truth – is the level you can release some of this weight…”
Why do I say this following up a sermon on marriage? Because we need to be reminded of it every day: WE ARE LOVED! It is this love that inspires us; it frees us; it heals us; it empowers us to love others. To love our spouses.
I’d like to invite you to take some time this week to read 1 John chapter 4:17-21. God’s love for us is hand in hand with our love for others.

Please know that you are loved right now. As a matter of fact, you’ve never been more loved than you are right now. God’s love for you has been written in His mind throughout eternity. He can be nothing towards you but loving. I hope this gives you peace today and brings you freedom. All the stuff we DO must flow from who we ARE –

And YOU ARE LOVED!!!